Battling Our Goliaths

Battling Our Goliaths

The battle of David and Goliath is probably one of the most well-known stories throughout all of Christendom. There are several lessons that we might learn from this story, but the one I want to focus on is having faith in the Lord to help fight our battles. If you remember from the story, before David meets Goliath, he was clothed with Saul’s armor and given his sword, but he recognized that having the armor on was too difficult for him. He hadn’t worn it before and it was getting in the way. So, he took it off, retrieved some smooth round stones from the brook and faced Goliath. Goliath made fun of him, cursed him, and threatened to feed him to the beasts.

What David says next is remarkable:

“Thou comest to me with a sword, and with a spear, and with a shield: but I come to thee in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom thou hast defied. This day will the Lord deliver thee into mine hand; and I will smite thee, and take thine head from thee… And all this assembly shall know that the Lord saveth not with sword and spear: for the battle is the Lord’s” (1 Samuel 17:45-47; emphasis added).

President Thomas S. Monson gave a talk several years ago entitled, “Meeting Your Goliath.” He asks the question: “Is there a Goliath in your life?”[i] He mentions several things that we must arm ourselves with in order to face our Goliaths, but what I think David emphasizes through his speech as he meets Goliath head on is the “sling of faith”[ii]. How much faith do we have that God will help us fight our physical, emotional, and spiritual battles?

When our faith is waning, do we ask for help? The Lord has made some promises to those of who are walking the treacherous paths of the last days: “Behold, I will go before you and be your rearward; and I will be in your midst, and you shall not be confounded” (D&C 49:27; see also Isaiah 52:12; 3 Nephi 20:42).

Whatever battles we are facing, the Lord already paved the way before us in the Garden of Gethsemane. He is behind us, bolstering our strength, supporting, and defending us. He is ever near us, encouraging us to continue and endure to the end. Like David, we can conquer our Goliaths as long as we put our faith and trust in God to help us.


[i] Thomas S. Monson, Conference Report, October 1967, pp. 129-133

[ii] Ibid.

Be Strong and of a Good Courage

Be Strong and of a Good Courage

“Be strong and of a good courage,” is the counsel that the Lord gives to Joshua several times before he leads the children of Israel into the promised land (Joshua 1: 6-7, 9, 18). Along with the counsel to be courageous, the Lord includes additional instruction to prepare Joshua and the children of Israel for the last leg of their journey into the land of Canaan. If we accept how the book of Joshua might be a metaphor for our journey during the last days, then we too can benefit from the same counsel.

Walk the straight and narrow and keep the commandments.

The children of Israel had wandered for 40 years. They were now ready and worthy to enter into the promised land and obtain the rest that the Lord promised them. The Lord tells Joshua: “Turn not from [the law] to the right hand or to the left” (Joshua 1:7). The promise given with this command is that the children of Israel would prosper wherever they went.

We have been told for several years now that we are in the 11th hour. The coming of the Lord is nigh. The Lord’s reign on earth and the promised rest from our trials and sorrows is near. Now is the time to buckle down and have the courage to stay on the covenant path. We cannot deviate from it if we want the Lord’s blessings.

Read and ponder on the scriptures daily.

Another promise given to Joshua, and to us, is that we will be successful in being able to remain true to our covenants if we read and ponder on the scriptures every day (Joshua 1:8). I know this promise is true. When I study and ponder the scriptures, I have greater strength throughout the day to keep the commandments and to endure.

Be not afraid. Don’t get stressed out.

The promise here is that the Lord is always with us. The past year has been one of the most difficult years ever for many people throughout the world. The Covid-19 pandemic caused a lot of fear and stress. We were all affected by it. I wonder how many of us turned to the Lord and trusted in His promises. Did we recognize His guiding hand? I know that there were times that I forgot. When that happens, we must pick up and move on. When our courage fails, all we need to do is turn to the Lord and He will be there for us again and again.

The Lord fulfills all of His promises.

In the 21st chapter of Joshua, it reads: “There failed not ought of any good thing which the Lord had spoken unto the house of Israel; all came to pass” (vs. 45). I know that the Lord is true and faithful. I know that if we follow His counsel, He will bless us. I know that if we put our trust in Him and have faith, He will strengthen us and give us the necessary courage to endure.

Lessons Learned From the Israelites

Lessons Learned From the Israelites

The children of Israel wandered in the wilderness for 40 years because of their foolishness and unbelief. Throughout their experience they were reminded that the Lord was their guide (Numbers 10:11-12;33-34) and that He would provide for them (Numbers 11:4-9;18). One of the greatest miracles that He provided for them was healing them from the bite of the fiery serpents if they would just look at the serpent of brass that Moses had fashioned to a pole (Number 21:8-9). Nevertheless, many of them refused to look; lacking the faith necessary to believe that such a simple thing could cure them.

In what ways, today, do we refuse to recognize how God is manifest in our lives? Do we wallow in self-pity thinking that God has abandoned us? Do expect God to provide more without recognizing how much He has already done? Do we, ourselves, refuse to look up? I know that I can take lessons from the mistakes that the children of Israel made. I know that I don’t have to wander or wonder.

The Covid-19 pandemic is not unlike the plagues that tormented the children of Israel. I, for one, am tired of the afflictions and the restrictions of it. It was easy for me to start feeling a little put out and murmur about how long it has lingered, but I have endeavored to remain faithful to study and prayer and to endure through repentance. Just those few things have brought blessings to me throughout the pandemic. I may have suffered physically, but the Lord has blessed me spiritually. He has answered my prayers, and He has revealed important things to me which have helped me fulfill my responsibilities.

One experience, in particular, is obvious. I was recently called to serve as the young women president in my ward. Before the calling was extended, there was a sudden influx of names of sisters in my ward that came into my mind. I couldn’t account for it. I wondered if maybe I would receive a calling with responsibility, but it didn’t make sense to me. I put it out of my mind. Over and over again, those names kept coming. Over and over again, I wondered why. In one case, I had never met the sister. Instead of a name (I didn’t know her name.) , I saw a face. When the bishop of my ward finally called me, it all made sense. I knew that those sisters would serve with me.

It doesn’t take great strides for us to receive blessings (although the Lord does expect those from us too at times). I have a testimony that the Lord has blessed you and me throughout this pandemic. He has provided a way (and still does) for us to have peace and be blessed. I also have a testimony that doing simple things brings great blessings. I hope we recognize His hand in all things and that we look to Him and live happily.

“And the Lord Spake Unto Moses Face to Face…”

“And the Lord Spake Unto Moses Face to Face…”

My family and I attended the Presbyterian church for some years before I was baptized into The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints. One of the first things I learned when I was taught the ‘discussions’ by the missionaries is that God and Jesus are two separate beings and that they both had physical bodies like yours and mine—though perfected. That truth resonated with me because I had been taught something different as a Presbyterian. The Presbyterian faith believes that God and Jesus are the same being and that they are beings who cannot be touched. That was very confusing to me as a child and something I refused to believe. It didn’t make sense to me. Especially, when I learned things like, “And the Lord spake unto Moses face to face as a man speaketh unto his friend” (Exodus 33:11). My child mind couldn’t reconcile the Lord of the Old Testament and the resurrected Jesus of the New Testament as a being who could not be touched and no longer had a body.

As a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, my beliefs are different from my former faith. I believe that God and Jesus are Father and Son. They, along with the Holy Ghost, constitute the Godhead: Three separate and distinct beings. Heavenly Father and Jesus Christ have perfected bodies of flesh and bones. They have spoken to man face to face and they continue to do so. Jesus Christ is at the head of our church. He speaks to His prophet on earth, President Russell M. Nelson. He directs the church by revealing His will to our prophet. He also reveals the doctrine and principles that we are to live by—which doctrines are eternal. I know these things to be true because they have been revealed to me to be true through the spirit of the Holy Ghost.

Joseph of Egypt

Joseph of Egypt

There are several stories throughout The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saint’s scriptural cannon (including the Bible) which illuminate how God saves His people when they allow Him to prevail in their lives. I read about one of those individuals this last week in my Old Testament class.

Joseph of Egypt was the 11th son of his father, Jacob, and Rachel’s firstborn. Joseph’s brothers were jealous of him because he was his father’s favorite. They conspired to kill him, but sold him to some merchants instead. He ended up in Potiphar’s house and was unfairly cast into prison because he refused the advances of Potiphar’s wife. While in prison, Joseph gained favor with Pharaoh by interpreting his dream and saved Egypt from famine. Eventually, Joseph reunited with his family and saw his father before he died. Now that was an extremely condensed version of Joseph’s story that we find in Genesis 37-50.

What I find remarkable about Joseph is his faithfulness and willingness to let God prevail in his life. In the most recent General Conference, President Nelson asked these questions:

Are you willing to let God be the most important influence in your life? Will you allow His words, His commandments, and His covenants to influence what you do each day? Will you allow His voice to take priority over any other? Are you willing to let whatever He needs you to do take precedence over every other ambition? Are you willing to have your will swallowed up in His? (Nelson, 2020).

Joseph of Egypt is a great example of these questions put into action. Joseph allowed God to be the most important influence in his life when he refused Potiphar’s wife by saying, “How then can I do this great wickedness, and sin against God?” (Genesis 39:9). How often do we refuse to entertain the influence of destructive social media in our lives? Do we set it aside and allow sweet influence of the Spirit to be our guide?

Joseph knew that he would one day rule over his brothers. When they came to him for help in Egypt, he didn’t refuse them. He didn’t take revenge by casting them into prison. Instead, he gave them whatever they needed, even giving them back their money, and sent them on their way with the condition that they bring his youngest brother back to him. When he finally revealed himself, they bowed down to them and he forgave them. He ruled over his brothers, yet he allowed his faith in God to take precedence over worldly ambition.

I love how Joseph shares with his brothers the blessings that came from his trials. He comforts them in their grief by telling them that God allowed him to be sold so that life would be preserved (Genesis 45:5) and that much good will come to pass because of it (Genesis 50:20).

I think about the countless millions of our Father’s children who have been saved because of Joseph’s willingness to let God prevail in his life. When we allow God to prevail in our lives, we too can be saved. I know that temporal and eternal blessings come from letting our will be swallowed up in God’s will.

Nelson, R. (2020). Let God Prevail. Churchofjesuschrist.org. Retrieved 30 January 2021, from https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2020/10/46nelson?lang=eng.

“And the Lord Called His People Zion”

“And the Lord Called His People Zion”

On January 6, 2021, after watching the insurrectionists storm the Capitol Building, I posted something on Instagram about my feelings. I can’t remember if I’ve ever made a political post before on social media, but I felt I had to take a stand against what I saw as an egregious assault on democracy.

I didn’t expect many of my social media friends to like what I said. Many of them have differing political opinions and beliefs than I do, but I feel like there is room for all of our beliefs. Our country is founded on the principles of choice, the right to have and voice an opinion, and the right to dissent. As citizens of the United States, we are fortunate to have a voice and be able to state our opinion on any platform. I expected that some of my friends would disagree with me. What I didn’t expect were personal attacks, which I received, from friends and family. Attacks veiled as “jokes” but filled with mockery and sarcasm. The worst attack came from a so-called friend, who purports to be an active member of the church, that was filled with mockery, belittlement, sarcasm, and bullying.  

I wasn’t personally hurt by the attacks, but I was saddened by them. How has our world come to this? How is it that we get so angry by someone disagreeing with us that we resort to hateful and hurtful remarks?

“And the Lord called his people Zion, because they were of one heart and one mind, and dwelt in righteousness; and there was no poor among them” (Moses 7:18).

In the last General Conference, several talks mention Zion and unity. President Henry B. Eyring tells us that the women of the church are a vital element in the gathering of Israel and establishing Zion (Sisters in Zion). Sister Sharon Eubank states how covenant women have a great influence on those around them. Additionally, she says, “We have power to remove prejudice and build unity” (By Union of Feeling We Obtain Power with God). Elder Quentin L. Cook speaks of unity too. He says, “Righteousness and unity are profoundly significant. When people love God with all their hearts and righteously strive to become like Him, there is less strife and contention in society” (Hearts Knit in Righteousness and Unity).

In order to establish Zion, I feel we must set aside our anger and discard our contentious thoughts and behaviors. Those feelings cannot coexist in a righteous people. This doesn’t mean that we need to discard our beliefs. Having one mind means opening up ourselves to understanding the mind of another and allowing the Holy Ghost to influence us and change our perspectives, if necessary. It’s coming together and becoming unified in purpose. The purpose of establishing Zion in the last days is to be ready for the coming of the Lord. That should be our focus as members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.

I pledge to make a greater effort to treat others with respect and dignity—even when I disagree with them.

If you would like an idea of the type of unity I am talking about, watch this:

Eternal Marriage and Families

Eternal Marriage and Families

The doctrine of eternal marriage and families is one of the most beautiful doctrines that was previously lost through apostasy, but which has been restored through the prophet Joseph Smith. As members of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, we claim that Elijah’s prophesied return has come to pass. That he and Elias appeared to the prophet Joseph Smith and to Oliver Cowdry.

The sealing powers restored by Elijah make possible the joy of being sealed to one’s immediate family and beyond in a great chain from Adam and Eve to the last woman and man to be born upon the earth (see D&C 128:18). In addition to Elijah, Elias also appeared to Joseph Smith and Oliver Cowdery, restoring the doctrine and the keys of celestial marriage. [i]

This sealing power allows families to perpetuate beyond the grave. Husband and wife are sealed together for eternity along with their children.

For the most part, people all over the world wish to be reunited with their loved ones who have passed. Even those who do not attend a church regularly believe in an afterlife and believe that they will see their family members when they die. Although this doctrine has been lost and muddled throughout the millennia, it has been restored and clarified in the last days.

My dad passed away from cancer at the fairly young age of 48 years old. About eight years prior to his death, he was sealed to my mom and then to me and my sisters in the Oakland California Temple. I remember the moment clearly as we knelt upon an altar in the House of the Lord and were sealed as children to our parents. It was a wonderful day for us all. After my dad died, I had no doubt that I would see him again and that our family would be together after this life as long we kept our covenants and remained faithful to the gospel of Jesus Christ.

Now, I have a family of my own. My children are grown and have been married in the temple. I have grandchildren who are sealed to their parents under the same covenant that the Lord made with Abraham. My family will continue to grow, and hopefully my posterity and I will be united after this life. It’s all conditional upon our obedience to the gospel, but I have faith that they will remain true.

The blessings of eternal life are abundant. I am grateful that these blessings have been provided for all of God’s children. The work we do in our temples throughout the world is to prepare individuals who have passed on to receive the covenants of the Lord, and to unite them with their families. It’s a beautiful and satisfying work that will bring countless blessings to God’s children.


[i] Judd, D. K. (2016). The Eternal Family: A Plain and Precious Part of the Plan of Salvation. In Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives (pp. 341-352). Provo, UT: Brigham Young University.

God’s Plan for Marriage and Families

God’s Plan for Marriage and Families

The Proclamation on the Family states that, “Marriage between a man and a woman is ordained of God.” [i] There is a lot of confusion in the world today about that edict. People, families, communities, and governments have rejected God’s plan for families and have pursued their own definitions of what marriage and family are. Nevertheless, this law is immutable. It will not change because God is an eternal and unchangeable being (Moroni 8:18).

There are many people in the world who do not like the fact that our doctrine will not change. That includes some people of our own faith. They see our stance against same-sex marriage as cruel and discriminatory, but what they fail to understand is that Jesus Christ is at the helm. The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is Christ’s church in the modern day. The God of this world and the world to come has created boundaries that families must live by in order to return to Him. Families can be together forever, but only if they accept God’s plan for them. As members of His church, we have committed to stand with God and to support only lawful marriage between a man and a woman.

Marriage between a man and a woman was instituted by God and is central to His plan for His children and for the well-being of society. Strong families, guided by a loving mother and father, serve as the fundamental institution for nurturing children, instilling faith, and transmitting to future generations the moral strengths and values that are important to civilization and crucial to eternal salvation. Changes in the civil law do not, indeed cannot, change the moral law that God has established. [ii]

As parents, it’s our responsibility to teach this to our children from a young age. We must help them understand the Plan of Happiness and the doctrine related to eternal marriage. When they not only understand God’s plan for us, but also have a testimony of it, then they will be able to withstand the barbs that are being thrown by those who are persecuting us for our beliefs. They will also be able to testify of what they know to be true.

I know that if we follow God’s plan, we can obtain the happiness we long for. He loves all of His children. If we seek to know His will for us, He will give us the strength we need to make correct choices and abide by His precepts. I know that families can be forever if we keep our covenants and live His law.


[i] The Family: A Proclamation to the World. Nov. 1995, http://www.lds.org/study/ensign/1995/11/the-family-a-proclamation-to-the-world?lang=eng. Accessed 15 Jul 2019.

[ii] https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/gospel-topics/same-sex-marriage?lang=eng

Saving a Marriage

Saving a Marriage

Divorce among members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints is not as common as it is among the rest of the general population of the United States, but it is still common enough that prophets and apostles have counseled on it. It’s estimated that, “25 to 30 percent of Latter-day Saint couples who regularly attend Church experience a divorce (Heaton, Bahr, & Jacobson, 2004).” [i]

Separate Couple

There are legitimate reasons for spouses divorcing, but even then, the brethren counsel husbands and wives to do everything possible before divorce so that there is no doubt that one can say, “I did everything possible to save my marriage.” The following counsel to married couples contemplating divorce comes from Elder Dallin H. Oaks during the April 2007 General Conference:

“I strongly urge you and those who advise you to face up to the reality that for most marriage problems, the remedy is not divorce but repentance. Often the cause is not incompatibility but selfishness. The first step is not separation but reformation.” [ii]

This means that we must look to our own hearts first before we consider taking a step that will inevitably bring pain. The suffering that you may be feeling now will not be easily left behind you after divorce. There are short term and long-term consequences that you may have to deal with after a divorce. Counsel with your Bishop. Pray to Heavenly Father for His counsel, and seek the advice of trusted family members. Take measure of your own shortcomings and decide to make changes in your life. You may find that your heart and perspective have changed during this process.

This counsel does not mean that you must stay in a marriage that causes physical, mental, or spiritual harm. Any type of abuse cannot be tolerated. Nevertheless, these measures will strengthen you as an individual and you will find that you will be able to hear the whisperings of the Spirit as it guides you to a resolution.

Elder Oaks also counsels couples to do everything they can to save their marriage. Couples must work together to preserve what they have established and have covenanted to maintain. Each must give all of themselves to one another and put the other first. He mentions being “kind and considerate” and “always seeking to make each other happy.” [iii]

Another thing that he counsels spouses to do is to put behind past offenses. Bringing up past wrongs and disappointments and placing blame do nothing to preserve the marriage. On the contrary, they damage the relationship and cause alienation. Put the past behind you. Forgive and move on.

Elder Oaks directs that kneeling in prayer with one another and bringing their issues to the Lord can bring the Spirit into your relationship. The power of the atonement can heal anything and anyone. In addition, your heart will be softened, and you will begin to see ways to help save your relationship. Other advice includes counseling with your Bishop and having hope.

As someone who is divorced, I can say that I tried my best to save my marriage with someone who has serious addiction problems. I was guided by the Spirit and felt my course to be the correct one even though I stayed a very long time in that situation. Nevertheless, it’s difficult because the effects will last a life-time. I know that marriage is sacred and should be valued above all other institutions. My hope is that troubled marriages will survive because the fruits of marriage can be sweet.


[i] Heaton, T. B., Bahr, S. J., & Jacobson, C. K. (2004). A statistical profile of Mormons: Health, wealth, and social life. Lewiston, NY: Edwin Mellen Press. As cited in Hawkins, A. J., & Fackrell, T. A. (2016). Should I Keep Trying to Work It Out: Sacred and Secular Perspectives on the Crossroads of Divorce. In Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives (pp. 79-87). Provo, UT: Brigham Young University.

[ii] Oaks, D. H. (2007, April). Divorce. Retrieved July 12, 2019, from https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2007/04/divorce?lang=eng&query=internet

[iii] Ibid.

“From Crisis to Crucible”

“From Crisis to Crucible”

As individuals and families in a fallen world, we will have many crises that we will need to overcome in order to qualify for eternal life with our Father in Heaven. Having an understanding that our trials are for our good and that they will give us the experience we need, is a perspective that we must all develop. [ii]

What exactly is a crucible? “A crucible is a furnace-like vessel that endures intense heat that refines and transfigures raw materials into a new stronger substance.” [iii] Therefore, having a crucible perspective means that we see our trials as an opportunity for us to become stronger as an individual and as a family. This crisis to crucible outlook will give us strength as we look to our Savior’s example and turn to our Father in Heaven for help.

While in the Garden of Gethsemane, the Savior took upon Himself the sins of the world. The pain of our sins caused Him to suffer so tremendously, that He bled from every pore. He was in so much agony that He cried out to our Father in Heaven for help. He wanted this mental, spiritual, and physical anguish to be removed, yet He submitted His will to the Father because He understood the blessings that would result. If you recall, an angel visited Him after His prayer to strengthen Him. [iv]

What can we learn from His experience? First, He cried to His Father. Our thoughts should turn to God when we are suffering through trials. The Savior’s experience shows us that God will answer our prayers and strengthen us. Notice, God did not take away the Savior’s experience of atoning for our sins. Rather, He answered His prayer by strengthening and comforting Him through the presence of an angel. Although our strength and comfort may come in different ways, our Father will not abandon us in our hour of need.

Second, He submitted His will to the Father. God knows what is best for us and what will help us return to Him. We all have weaknesses that we must overcome. We all need to learn valuable lessons in order to become like Him. When we submit our will to God, we are telling Him that we trust Him. We can trust that His paths [v] and His ways [vi] are better than our own.

The Savior suffers in Gethsemane

Third, the Savior understood how important His atonement was. He promised us all before we came to earth that He would atone for our sins. He also knew that through His atonement, He would have the power to redeem us. He was willing to suffer so that we might live and return to God. We too can have an understanding that our suffering will make us stronger and will lead us closer to returning to our Father. Through our prayers and our willingness to follow God’s plan for us, He enlightens us. This doesn’t mean we will understand all of the reasons why we have trials, but He won’t leave us without some kind of insight into our hardships.

Like all of our Father’s children, I have suffered trials and hardships throughout my life. I am grateful for a loving Father who has not left me stranded and alone, but has been with me when I have needed His help. My trials have changed me. Through the crucible experiences that I’ve had, I am stronger, more refined, and more like our Father and our Redeemer. 


[i] Hawkins, Alan J., et al. Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives. Brigham Young University, 2016.

[ii] Doctrine and Covenants 122:7

[iii] Robinson, W. David, et al. “Crucibles and Healing: Illness, Death, Loss, and Bereavement.” Successful Marriages and Families: Proclamation Principles and Research Perspectives, Brigham Young University, 2016, pp. 237–248.

[iv] Luke 22:42-44

[v] Proverbs 3:5-6

[vi] Isaiah 55:8